War Violence Against Women: Part 4 of 4

In September 2012, the documentary “The Invisible War” was released. It chronicles the experiences of many military personnel and the sexual trauma, specifically rape, which they experienced and the lawsuit these survivors have filed. Ten years ago a study was published in the American Journal of Industrial Medicine called “Factors Associated With Women’s Risk of Rape in the Military Environment” that had already outlined much of what the film covered.

Both the film and the study demonstrate that a sexualized environment increases the chance of rape, alcohol is often involved, reporting does not often happen for fear of retribution, and disciplinary action was insignificant or non-existent. As I mentioned in a previous blog, “If you serve in the U.S. military and you rape or sexually assault a fellow service member, chances are you won’t be punished. In fact, you have an estimated 86.5% chance of keeping your crime a secret and a 92% chance of avoiding a court-martial” (CNN Opinion).

A few notes from the study:
•    Women reporting hostile work environments had approximately six-fold greater odds of rape.
•    Consistent rates of rape across eras of service [Vietnam War to Persian Gulf War] indicate that violence towards military women remains an unresolved problem.
•    The assailant was often identified as someone who had sexually harassed the victim, frequently a non-commissioned officer, and someone under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
•    Rape occurred more frequently on base and off-duty. The time of day most often reported for rape occurrence was 6 pm to midnight. Barracks were commonly identified as the location of rape.
•    Three-fourths of women who were raped did not report the incident to a ranking officer. One fourth of victims indicated they did not file a report because the rapist was the ranking officer. One third did not report rape because the rapist was a friend of the ranking officer.
•    Most victims acknowledged a sense of shame, futility, or fear of the possible negative effects of officially reporting rape. These women believed that nothing would be done, reporting would make the work situation worse, or their military careers would be adversely affected.

At the end of the film, it provocatively states, “In December 2011, the Court dismissed the survivors’ lawsuit ruling that rape is an occupational hazard of military service. An appeal has been filed.” While the Court’s dismissal does not say this explicitly (and the filmmakers have been accused of being inflammatory), the motion for dismissal by the Defense does: “On November 18, 2011, the District Court (J. O’Grady) heard oral argument. Defendants [former Secretaries of Defense Rumsfeld and Gates] argued, in essence, that unpunished rape and sexual assault should be viewed as ‘incident to service’ — i.e. an occupational hazard — for those who join the military services. Defendants [former Secretaries of Defense Rumsfeld and Gates] argued that the federal courts are not permitted to adjudicate whether they violated the law because doing so would intrude upon military discipline" (KORI CIOCA et al. v. DONALD RUMSFELD et al., page 7). The plaintiffs are demanding justice; they haven’t received it from the military and now the Judicial Branch says it’s none of their business.

Showing signs of change, on January 4, 2013, President Obama signed the National Defense Authorization Act for Fiscal Year 2013. It includes stopping “enlistment waivers for individuals with felony rape, sexual abuse, sexual assault, or related offenses;” offering “better training for new commanders to create command environments that do not tolerate sexual assault, and to educate the commanders of the resources available for survivors and the disciplinary procedures for rapists;” and “improved reporting on sexual assault prevention, training, investigation, and prosecution throughout the Armed Forces.”

Make the Connection offers a lot of resources and support for U.S. veterans, many of whom may have been really “successful" during war (rape & pillage) and are readjusting to “normal." I encourage you to check out the work they’re doing and do something (anything) to support the survivors.

War Violence Against Women: Part 2 of 4

Today, on January 24, 2013, women and girls are continuing to be assaulted in Syria and refugee camps (IRC’s Press Release). And no doubt women in other war zones, like Afghanistan, Somalia, Iraq, and Mexico are experiencing this as well. UN Women reports, “Women in war-torn societies can face specific and devastating forms of sexual violence, which are sometimes deployed systematically to achieve military or political objectives. […] Even after conflict has ended, the impacts of sexual violence persist, including unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted infections and stigmatization.”

Rape and sexual violence aren’t supposed to be a part of war anymore (or life, for that matter). In 1949, the Geneva Convention stated, “Women shall be especially protected against any attack on their honour, in particular against rape, enforced prostitution, or any form of indecent assault.” And then in 2008, the UN Security Council reinforced this with Resolution 1820 which, among other things, “Demands the immediate and complete cessation by all parties to armed  conflict of all acts of sexual violence against civilians with immediate effect.” It stresses the importance that peace cannot and will not occur while sexual violence continues to exist.

Yesterday I blogged about rape occurring during war in Syria, I’m assuming by Syrian men. “Those men" (yesterday’s blog). But U.S. soldiers commit sexual violence as well, which the general population usually doesn’t hear about. “If you serve in the U.S. military and you rape or sexually assault a fellow service member, chances are you won’t be punished. In fact, you have an estimated 86.5% chance of keeping your crime a secret and a 92% chance of avoiding a court-martial” (CNN Opinion).

That leaves me to wonder, what are the chances of “keeping it a secret” if the assault is against a civilian in another country… especially during war? Because “war” is WAR. I found it challenging to find reliable sources for sexual violence incidents involving U.S. soldiers, but they’re there. In March 2006, U.S soldiers raped and killed a 14- or 15-year-old Iraqi girl (Washington Post and BBC News). And then in March 2012, one U.S. soldier (or many?) killed 9 children and 7 adults (including 2 women that had been raped) (BBC News and Steve Lendman’s Blog).

All this to say…???

3 days ago I would have considered myself quite knowledgeable about the often difficult plight of women worldwide. Turns out that even though I continue to educate myself about it, there’s still a lot I don’t know… or don’t connect with… or have a hard time believing it can be any worse.

Created in 2010, UN Women (United Nations Entity for Gender Equality and the Empowerment of Women) offers useful information and resources, and “works for the elimination of discrimination against women and girls; empowerment of women; and achievement of equality between women and men as partners and beneficiaries of development, human rights, humanitarian action and peace and security." I encourage you to check out the work they’re doing.

War Violence Against Women: Part 1 of 4

Today while I was driving home from work and listening to the radio, I heard this story broadcast on NPR’s “All Things Considered.” It’s 4 minutes long: “Rape A ‘Significant And Disturbing’ Feature Of Syrian War.”  It discusses the report that the International Rescue Committee released last week. The report states, “Syrians identified rape as a primary reason their families fled the country” (IRC’s Press Release).

When I think about war, the term “rape & pillage” comes to my mind without thinking twice. But then I stop myself and ask… who’s being raped? Women are being raped and violated. Girls are being raped and injured. And then I ask… who’s raping them? Sons are doing this. Brothers are committing this.

It would be easy to say, “Those people are raping those people."

“Those people”… this is a term that always makes me cringe in a conversation. “Those people” is a negative phrase that (by my personal definition) means “human beings who I do not attempt to identify with nor show sympathy for and, for all intents and purposes, is unlike me and is therefore my enemy.” I think it’s used as a defense mechanism to distance ourselves from others’ suffering. Once we’ve crossed over a line in our belief system, I believe it’s possible for one human being to abuse another human being and sincerely not recognize the act as immoral and unethical.

So, why am I discussing this on a Fertility Awareness blog? Because I am wholly invested in women and the truth of the matter is that women, here and around the world, are often oppressed and violated (i.e. browbeaten, subjugated, demoralized, exploited). Want to make a difference? Check out the Colorado Coalition Against Sexual Assault

Preconception Nutrition

Aside from reducing stress, eating a plant-based, whole-foods diet is a great way to boost your fertility. Basically, our bodies are designed to try and “get us pregnant" every cycle. If there are outside factors (like stress, poor nutrition, repeated illnesses, etc.) telling our bodies “this isn’t a good time to get her pregnant," then conceiving might be a bit more challenging.

"Real Food for Mother & Baby: The Fertility Diet, Eating for Two, and Baby’s First Foods" by Nina Planck is a great place to start. The rule-of-thumb is to eat REAL food… what our great-grandmothers would have recognized as food ;)

Two things to keep in mind… avoiding the “dirty dozen" and eating low-mercury fish. The dirty dozen includes foods in which we eat the skin or the skin is thin (and potentially covered in pesticides): apples, bell peppers, blueberries, celery, cherries, grapes (imported), kale, nectarines (imported), peaches, potatoes,  spinach/lettuce, and strawberries. It’s best to buy these organic and/or local. Low-mercury fish choices (so our body doesn’t store heavy metal poisons) include arctic cod, anchovies, catfish, clam, crab, oyster, sardine, scallop, shrimp, tilapia, trout, and wild salmon (http://www.montereybayaquarium.org/cr/seafoodwatch.aspx).

Yum! Eating for 1 so that eventually you’re “eating for 2" can taste really good!

Why Cervical Fluid is #1!

When women first learn to chart using the Fertility Awareness Method, more often than not, they seem to use their Basal Body Temperature (BBT) as the most important fertility sign… but it’s not!

I can understand (and even relate) as to why that is… it’s a number you can record… it’s objective… it’s black and white… there’s no guesswork. But in the end, it’s retrospective… it’s what’s happened “back there" and when charting cycles, we want to know what’s “going to happen," particularly when ovulation is about to occur. We want to know when we’re fertile (ovulation is just around the corner) and when we’re not fertile (ovulation is still far off or it happened awhile ago).

That’s where the importance of charting Cervical Fluid (CF) comes into play. For a variety of reasons, CF is the definition of fertility! But a lot of women are confused about interpreting their CF and what it means. There can be a lot of, “I’m pretty sure I’m not fertile, but I’m not certain." That’s why finding an instructor that’s qualified to teach the FAM is so important! If you’re confused about what your CF is and means, I encourage you to find the answers to your questions by coming to one of my classes or finding a teacher in your area. Our Cervical Fluid is speaking a language, we just have to learn how to be a part of the conversation!

Am I fertile or not fertile today?

While using the Fertility Awareness Method for avoiding pregnancy or trying to conceive, this is the question women ask themselves each day: “Am I fertile or not fertile today?" The answer should be either yes or no. If it’s ever… I don’t think so… or I’m not sure… or maybe… then something’s up!

Aside from reading great books like Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler and Garden of Fertility by Katie Singer, there aren’t a lot of resources to help women answer this question. In addition to the classes that I teach, I offer one-on-one consultations which is a great way for a woman to read, interpret, and understand her body even better. Books can’t offer that… phone apps can’t offer that… online groups can’t offer that.

My hope is that if you’re looking for accurate information about your body, that you can find it. And I would welcome the opportunity to be of assistance to you!

FAQ about the Fertility Awareness Method

The Fertility Awareness Center is located in New York City and is operated by Ilene Richman. She has compiled a GREAT list of questions that are often asked about the Fertility Awareness Method. My favorite one is: “Why haven’t I heard about FAM before? Why didn’t my gynecologist offer it to me?" Follow the link above to find the answer!

Pursuing your Passion

I’m so incredibly proud of my dear friend, Kylene. She left her secure 9-5 marketing job this summer to pursue her passion… photography. She’s crazy, right?

Well… it turns out she’s not because it’s working! I love when that happens. (Also, I may or may not have been one of the people “practically begging her to take the leap.")

A gift she made for us hangs in our house; it’s one of my favorite quotes: “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go do that. Because what the world needs are people who have come alive" (Harold Whitman).

Strange as it may sound, Fertility Awareness makes me come alive! No matter how a conversation starts with a friend, acquaintance or stranger, more often than not we end up talking about something related to FA… and I’m pretty sure these conversations aren’t just one sided ;)  I’m so grateful that I have the opportunity to combine my passion with my profession just like Kylene discovered.

Natural Birth Control!

Do you make New Year’s resolutions? I have to confess, I don’t. But I do think it’s a great start for making new, healthy habits! For all the women who are making 2013 New Year’s resolutions, I wonder how many are saying, “This! This will be the year I’ll be free of birth control hormones and birth control devices!"

While using the Fertility Awareness Method as a form of birth control isn’t for every woman, I think that many don’t even know its existence as an option. Maybe “this is your sign" and you’ll consider coming to one of my upcoming classes at Blossom Wellness Center on Thursday, January 17 from 6pm-8:30pm or Saturday, February 9 from 1pm-3:30pm. It’s $40/person, $50/couple and you can register by calling 303-788-0600. Learn to chart in 2013!

Describing the Fertility Awareness Method

Hi there and welcome to my very first Flowers Fertility blog! I thought the best first blog entry should be one I already wrote :)  The plan (fingers-crossed) is that you’ll be hearing a lot more from me in the coming months as I develop my online presence. I’ve been teaching classes and offering individual consultations since 2011, but hope to expand this little educational business I’ve started. Cheers to the New Year!

Originally posted on a blog managed by Mountain Midwifery Center in 2011:

We've all heard the joke, "What do you call couples who use the Rhythm Method for birth control? Parents." The Fertility Awareness Method, specifically the Sympto-Thermal Method, is most decidedly NOT the Rhythm Method. Instead, it is a woman-centered, holistic, educational, and versatile model of gathering information from one's body. Women and couples successfully use the Fertility Awareness Method to monitor reproductive health, to properly time intercourse in hopes of consciously conceiving, and to avoid pregnancy.The advantages are that it is simple to use, is easy to learn, is inexpensive, doesn't harm reproductive health, and can be a reliable form of birth control. (Wait... did she really just say it can be a reliable form of birth control?)

The Fertility Awareness Method looks at what's going on in a woman's body today, and uses data from (in order of importance) cervical fluid, basal body temperature, and cervical position to answer the question, "Am I fertile or not fertile today?" It also helps to answer a lot of other questions we may find ourselves asking: "Is my period late because I'm pregnant or because I'm stressed out? Is this a late period or a miscarriage? Why can't I get pregnant? Is my vaginal discharge supposed to be like this? How many times am I going ovulate each cycle?"

The sentiment I hear over and over from women who learn about Fertility Awareness is, "Why didn't they teach us this in school? I wish I had known this stuff when I was a teenager!"

The foundation of the Fertility Awareness Method is observing the daily hints/clues/signs/symptoms that our bodies give us about what's going on with our reproductive cycle. It's scientifically validated: specific reproductive hormones cause the menstrual cycle to progress in a certain way and produce symptoms in our bodies that can be observed. It is a secular alternative to Natural Family Planning that is taught by the Catholic Church. (More about the differences here.)

Many thorough studies have been done on the Fertility Awareness Method. A recent 2007 German study of the Sympto-Thermal Method of Fertility Awareness showed that for preventing pregnancy, the method effectiveness was 99.6% and the total effectiveness was 98.2% [1]. This is extremely high when compared to the Center for Disease Control's (CDC) statistics for other forms of birth control: male condoms are 85-98%, pills/patches/rings are 92-99%, and Fertility Awareness Methods are 75-99% [2]. The lower range of effectiveness for the CDC's figures of Fertility Awareness Methods could be that it included the data for non-Sympto-Thermal Methods of Fertility Awareness like the outdated Rhythm Method and perhaps couples who did not adhere to the specific rules for avoiding pregnancy. The high range (99%) shows that the method can be extremely effective when it's properly taught, understood, observed, interpreted, and followed-up for individual concerns with a qualified teacher.

Many women successfully use the Fertility Awareness Method to achieve their personal reproductive goals. While this method is not right for everyone, adding this valuable information of body knowledge to one's repertoire would be an asset to anyone working in women's health.


Colleen Flowers is a Holistic Reproductive Health Practitioner and teaches Natural Conception and Natural Birth Control classes using the Justisse Method, a Sympto-Thermal Method of Fertility Awareness at Mountain Midwifery Center. She suggests Taking Charge of Your Fertility and Cycle Savvy (specifically for teens) by Toni Weschler, and The Garden of Fertility by Katie Singer for information about the Fertility Awareness Method.

[1] Frank-Herrmann P, Heil J, Gnoth C, Toledo E, Baur S, Pyper C, et al. (2007)."The effectiveness of a fertility awareness based method to avoid pregnancy in relation to a couple's sexual behaviour during the fertile time: a prospective longitudinal study. Human Reproduction. May;22(5):1310-9. Retrieved February 15, 2011 from http://tiny.cc/opsk6

[2] http://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/unintendedpregnancy/contraception.htm